I have been quite this week on the blog. For those who know me in real life, you know that when I am quiet in my writing it is because I am filtering, revising, rolling around something complex with in me. I have started several blog post. All felt disorganized, judgmental, cynical, and unproductive. While I love a good rant, I like to think I that I don't rant for the sake of speaking, but because I want something changed. Improved. A wrong corrected.
What am I so riled up about? Well lots frankly, but specifically humanity's treatment towards our youth. See, as humans we do fall in the scientific category of animals, but we like to think of our selves as beings and not animals. Yet, what I am seeing in my day to day life, feels like our youth are being raised as animals rather than as beings, and I must say that I also feel that raising them in the wild, would be a far cry better than many of a modern ways of shuffling kids around or off to the side so that the world can go about its business.
Why am I so disturbed by this right now? Well I am usually frustrated with this, and it is something that stays in the back of my mind constantly. See, my own personal children are the victims of being forgotten. One son was left to rot, literally, in a crib 23 hours a day for 2.5 years, to the point of physical, emotional and intellectual scars that will stay with him for life. Recently, my husband and I went to see the showing of the documentary
STUCK which takes an in depth look at the impacts on children, families and society when kids remain unparented due to bureaucratic hurdles that leave them trapped in orphanages. Almost all of the footage was something I had seen before, but never had I seen it all together in 85 minutes of back to back fotage.
What struck me to my core, was seeing the Romain orphanages and the profound effect that emotion, physical and emotional neglect had on the children stuck in the institution. Kids who were mostly born healthy were exhibiting symptoms of psychosis, autism, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, ODD, PDD, and failure to thrive.
While I know that there are many genetic variables that can increase the probability of a child to have one or more of these disorders, there was no way that 100% of the children in the orphanage had inherited genes that would cause such wide spread mental and physical impairments. These cases were clearly caused by the act of willful negligence by society. We, all of us, caused this, directly or indirectly. Human beings, were reduced to treatment worse than stock animals raised for consumption and the price was outstandingly high. The extreme example of the Romanian orphanages, felt like a wake-up slap in the face judgment on a problem that is much more subtle, but all too real, with other institutions geared towards youth.
Then there is the here and now. Me as a parent of two boys, who both survived their early months and years in an institution. With that come the labels of SPD, PDD, OCD, and PTSD. Then, there is the other here and now of my life as a public school teacher, and an active member of the homeschooling world Something I am hearing over and over again is, "my child is not succeeding at school because they are ADD, ADHD, not hearing anything the teacher says, not challenged, has so much homework they feel like they are sinking." Sadly, I am mostly hearing from parents of young children. Parents are being told in the masses that something is wrong with their child, and than medication is needed, so that they can become "regular learners" in the institution of education.
Seriously! If I was a CEO of a company and 30-40% of
my staff needed to be medicated to perform their duties asked of them, I would not all of the sudden assume that the work force was falling apart. I would re-think my company model. I feel like we (society) consider our youth to just be shorter adults. Not true! Kindergartners are not just smaller adults. They are goofy, wiggly, unsure of where their body ends and another person's body begins. Some of them are physically ready to read and write, some are not. Being ADHD is basically acting like you are a kindergartner when you are not one.
Unfortunately, I am finding that in this day and age of standardized test, and efficiency and constantly being technologically plugged in, we do have an epidemic of attention deficit. There is a deficit of people truly being present and paying attention to the people and places around them. I have yet to hear of a natural system where 30 animals would be put together in a small confined space that were all the same age with a non-relative in charge. Of course our kids apear to be hypervigilant, hyper aware, agressive, territorial, dissacociated. My son, who is extremely sensory aware, might be labeled as ADD in such a situation, or I would say, I want him watching my back in a crowded place, because no one is going to sneak past him. I feel like we are going in the wrong direction with our educational system. I re-watched a
TED talk "Bring on the Revolution" which implores us to really think how we should be teaching today.
I don't feel like the initial idea of educational institutions were originally terrible. And, I feel like sticking with it in this day and age is unconscionable. The epidemic of emotional and psychological acronyms seems to correlate directly with the widening gap of how the "real world" works today in the 21st century, and the way we operate the educational institutions for our youth.
So now what? Well, I am sure I will have more on that later.